01.19.07 at 1:20 am

UNCLE RONNIE says:
LOL Dogg their is your stat “As someone who deals with black women exclusively” you said it yourself playa how many brother’s do you know that are faithfull or married not many ( i can only think of like 7 of my freind total)I’m willing to bet, your mom and dad are not even married. Yea black women can be a challenge but it’s more of them (black women with a job or degree) then us and then you got yo brother’s locked up and then a bunch of lost sole’s skipping around fagg’n you do the math. In the long run more brothers may realize that its cheaper in the long run to stay single you only got one life I’m not saying i’m not going to get married but i have not anyone that i could even imagin “dealing with” from hear! I’m just saying forever “foreva eva”

01.19.07 at 3:29 am

Crystal says:
A friend of mine sent this article to me yesterday. There were several responses, both male and female. There are some good points but I feel like you discredited yourself by addressing an issue that is SO much larger than Black women. Here is my personal response: I’ve read all of your comments and have soooo, many responses. Instead of boring those who don’t know me, I’ll just go into the FOOL who wrote this article.
He makes me want to apply for a writing gig at King Magazine!! I would love to get paid to write dumb crap. Dude’s whole argument failed immediately. Iit’s published in a magazine that is intended for black MEN only. That’s like me writing an article for ESPN titled: Why Isn’t Quilting Considered a Sport?
Honestly, did he think about TRULY addressing the issue or did he just feel like venting cuz his girl did him wrong the night he wrote it?
I could be wrong, maybe 50% of King’s readers are black women? (LOL!!) That should’ve been the statistic he started with in the FIRST BLEEPING place.
Speaking of statistics, he shoulda broke it down to what percent of brothers that are married to non-black women. I believe the stats he quotes are accurate,
but putting total blame on us is just absurd. Brothers HAVE to take some of the blame, dating white and Latino women (using the term Hispanic is antiquated, its like
Saying Negro I’m offended by his ignorance) is like the new black on the dating scene. And whose to blame for that? His #1
1) I do agree with this brother on this point. I do appreciate the small things. I hate to admit it but we need to stop getting excited about monetary gifts. I’ll take roses, going
out to hear poetry or a book reading over jewelry or an expensive night out. Ever since I learned about the blood diamonds years ago, before Blood Diamonds and Kanye’s Diamonds are Forever.
I haven’t wanted a diamond. I will/would be TOO happy with a fake diamond or a blue topaz engagement ring. (I type this in all honesty. Lindz will tell you I’m not lying) His #2
I guess I’ll have to take this one with his article. It’s so clear that his article was NOT made with ME in mind. NOT A BEYUCKY fan *BOOOOOO* I think he confuses women with cars or airline tickets.
WTF is up with upgrade? Maybe he should upgrade his misogynistic thinking? HIS #3
3) It surprises me that he even wrote something that I agree with. I’ve treated my men like kings I’m a romantic at heart so I always do things like that. HIS #4
This is something that should be done before you claim someone to be your man or girl. Maybe he is really giving the brothers a hint on the sly? HIS #5
This is the funniest one. Lindz is he punk/wuss? “don’t yell at me” he’s an ole sensitive brother. Yelling doesn’t solve anything but BOTH men women need to do this. I’m off my soap box. This will be new blog on myspace. thanks Lindsey, I knew I kept you around for a reason ;)

01.19.07 at 3:43 pm

Black Women says:
Did you forget that black women have less options to GOOD men? And, well, that black women are loyal to black men, which is the real problem? If black women were more open to dating men outside of their race, then they’d have more options. In NYC alone, 50 percent of black men are unemployed. Unemployed. No job. no income. So, now black women in NY have to find marriage options from 50 percent of the men able to afford to even have a wedding.

01.20.07 at 3:32 am

donwil says:
You hit it right on the money. In order for anything to be successful, you have to work at it. That goes in a relationship double time.

01.20.07 at 1:00 pm

Bombshell says:
This is some old bullshit. Puleez. The article should have been about black men and THEIR shit. How many black men do you know that are men with integrity (honest, faithful, trustworthy, etc.)? I’ve met so many lying, cheating, backstabbing black men in my life that I’ve lost count. Black men THINK that they are entitled to having their cake and eat it too. The world does not revolve around black men. We spoil your assess to death and rarely do black men appreciate any of that shit. Women who cook, clean, fuck, and otherwise take care of their men aren’t always so lucky to find a man who can at least stay true to his woman. I knew this one guy who always had a girlfriend, and didn’t think that he was cheating on his girlfriend by having other “friends”. Fuck that. Here’s an example:
Dude would have his main chick. She was the one that he would fuck and take care of. Then he would have other women who were “back ups” just in case his main woman fucked up. So, these other women were privy to everything that his main woman was privy to. He took the other women out to bars, clubs, dinner, etc. (Yes, that’s cheating even when he’s not fucking them). Let me clarify… If you meet up with a friend of the opposite sex from time to time for dinner - okay. When you are spending frequent, regular time out at night with another woman… that’s bullshit. If woman B knows where your man is on Friday night and who he is with and his girlfriend doesn’t - that’s an inappropriate relationship. Having slumber parties (you know how I feel about this)… inappropriate.
For this asshole to say that the reason that black women aren’t married is 70% black women, he needs to reevaluate the actions of the black community and include the actions of some black men. What’s even odder is the fact that he didn’t put on his list that more black men have check lists than men of other races. I frequently hear black males giving their checklists on what a black women needs to be marriage material. She has to have this, do that, look like this, smell like that….. then, these men (who know that they are with a woman who doesn’t meet his standards) don’t know how to break off the relationship and move the fuck on. They want to stick around, give their woman hope, and ultimately waste both of their time. If what you have isn’t what you want - MOVE ON! When you’re dealing with grown ass people - don’t expect the other one to change. If you don’t want them for who they are - MOVE ON! You know who the other person is, what they are about, and how they operate. You’ve seen the best and the worst. If that’s good enough - make a REAL commitment. If it’s not good enough - STOP wasting your time and her time.
So, why is there a problem? Hmm? Fear of commitment? Not likely, since you’re committed yourself to watching every one of your favorite sports events (i.e. football, baseball, basketball, hockey, or other poison of choice). Fear of losing complete independence? Maybe, since that would keep you from being able to roll out with your other chick with ease. Fear of manning up? Most likely, since most black men don’t have a roll model to show them what this looks like. Your daddy rolled out. Why not you? Stop blaming black women for all of the problems and take a few moments to look in the mirror. Reevaluate your actions and the actions of your peers. How are you measuring up? Is you check list complete with straight A’s for performance? If you answer yes, you are delusional. If you answer no, should your woman damn you to hell for all of the things that aren’t perfect about you. My bet is that your woman would commit to you despite your flaws before you would make a commitment to her. Stop looking for things for trouble or you’ll find it.

01.20.07 at 5:11 pm

Rose says:
Ummm…the US Census Bureau 2005 has the statistic that black men married with their spouse present is around 35% so black men aren’t too far off from black women. Also add the fact that much more black men marry outside their race and black women are still hesitant to cross the waters into the lighter hues. It seems to me that BOTH black men and black women are living single. As a women, I can appreciate that you cared to comment on this topic, although I don’t agree with all of your suggestions and I have to remember that this is KING, but since I am writing on its website I suppose I can’t talk too much shit. I do challenge you, Huey P.(Newton)(Langston)Hughes to write something worthy of your namesakes on the low marriage rates of men and the glorification of the pimp. Though I am sure that is too intellectual for KING, right?

01.20.07 at 11:05 pm

Tomi says:
I could not even read the whole article without getting amped!!!
First of all when you meet a decent guy with success at his fingertips, you can’t necessarily be a good woman to him because he’s too busy looking for a good man! Second of all when you finally find a man your head over heels for, he tells you being a good woman means sleeping with another one! And third of all 70 percent of all you wanna be rappers, never read thesaurus in your life, 9th grade education BROTHERS ARE IN JAIL! Populating rikers like its new land. I’d rather be an ambitious, career driven vibrator using white MAN dating BITCH!

01.20.07 at 11:20 pm

Tomi says:
MAYBE WHEN THE OTHER 70 PERCENT OF BLACK MEN GET OUT OF JAIL WE COULD START MATE MATCHING! OR MAYBE IF THEY WERE ABLE TO HOLD AN INTELLECTUAL CONVERSATION IN THE CLUB INSTEAD OF BLOWING IT DOWN WITH WEED, BAD LIQUOR, AND GUNS, WE WOULD BE ABLE TO MEET SOMEONE. OR MAYBE IF THEY DIDN’T THINK THE PROPER TIME TO MEET IS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE SIDEWALK, OR THE PROPER THING TO ORDER IS A CHEESE BURGER WITH CHILI CHEESE FRIES AND THEN RAP ABOUT WHERE MY WIFEE AT? SUITABLE MATE???? DO WE EVER GET A CHANCE TO JUDGE? THIS IS NOT ABOUT BLAME TO ME, THIS ABOUT THE FACT THAT MYSELF AND OTHERS HAVE NOT SEEN ANYTHING FIT FOR A HUSBAND IN A LONG TIME. OUR FATHERS NEVER EVEN PAID CHILD SUPPORT, MY GRAND FATHER WASN’T MARRIED TO MY GRANDMOTHER. I THINK THE CULTURE NEEDS RECONSTRUCTING NOT THE BLACK WOMEN. WE BEEN WIPING YALL BLACK ASSES, AND WALKING YALL TO SCHOOL FOR TOO LONG. STAND UP AND START PLACING SOME RINGS ON THE FINGERS. I DATED THIS GUY FOR 5 YEARS. FOR 5 YEARS HE PAID NOT ONE BILL NOT EVEN HIS CAR NOTE. HE NEVER LIVED ON HIS OWN. HE SURVIVES BY HIS MOTHER STILL. WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU DROVE THROUGH REALITY LANE. BLACK MEN AINT FIT FOR MARRAIGE EITHER. LIKE I SAID: ITS A CULTURE THING.

01.22.07 at 10:45 pm

Adeshola says:
It is interesting that you would say that black women are not worthy of being married. The question that you should ask is why is the black man afraid of marriage? Speaking from the perspective of a woman who has always treated my men with love, devotion, and respect, I didn’t get married until I was 28. I dated my husband forever…. ten years. He wasn’t ready to be married, and I wasn’t really ready either. It is totally rude of you to treat this issue as the woman’s issue only. We want to be married, loved, and appreciated. Period. In addition, we also want to be in a situation where we have a man that wants us for us. Is it wrong for a woman not to want to be bothered with a broke man? Is it wrong to want a nice gift every now and then? Black women do things that are nice sweet and borderline stupid when it comes to men. So if we continue to allow ourselves to be used and get nothing in return then we are the dummies. Men should ask themselves the following questions?
1. Why do I have to sample every girl in the world? 2. Why is it okay for you to sleep with an “easy” woman and call her a ho? She just isn’t marriage material? Right? 3. Why do you have multiple baby mamas? You are just irresponsible. 4. Do you want to be married? 5. Why can’t you just treat a woman the way you want your mother or sister treated? 6. Why can’t you stop being so promiscuous? 7. Why do you feel you must have a harem? Let’s just blame the woman for all of your stupid issues.

01.23.07 at 6:49 pm

» This Is My Financial Situation - KING-mag.com says:
[…] In response to last week’s post, I noticed a lot of black women said one of the reasons most of them are single is because there just aren’t enough men who make enough money. In their defense, a lot of them said, most black men aren’t even comfortable being in a relationship with a woman being the breadwinner. Now, add on the statistics citing the number one reason for divorce and breakups amongst couples is money, and we begin to understand why man-with-the-red-shirt stormed out and went all Holy Ghost on the show. […]

01.30.07 at 4:51 pm

You and I have been played, Wake the hell UP! says:
This article is sssooo sssooo serious. So serious it gives me a gut feeling of hopelessness in my black woman. To my woman, I understand how hard it is to actually read the article, except the article as truth, and respect the article and the man who wrote it. Instead, on just about every comment there is only negativity projected to the facts and reasons why we don’t want you. You are negative, strait up. ex. he’s doesn’t make enough money, he’s sensitive, he’s this and that. My black queens! You are in a serious position right now. You are making the money that at one point we were making, why are you kicking us down? You are getting the college degrees but have the NERVE to spew negativity at the young men who have made that one mistake of being around or being apart of the wrong group at a young age and get lock up. THE LAW says, once you have a charge against you for what ever reason, (and we know the justice system is not for real)you will not work or be respected in the community again. This is not a cry of hopelessness from life as black man cause allot are brothers are on it, BUT how dare my counterpart, my earth, my rib, my queen take jabs of hate (because that’s what it is, and we’ve been taught to do it) perspective to the black man. You don’t know what society you live in? Are you familiar with slavery, The Tuskegee Syphilis Experiment, the destruction of the panther group, the killing of Dr. King, Malcom X etc?
How dare you kick us down like society kicks us down. Of all people, we expect out queens, my daughters to uplift, not slander the ones you came from. (yes you can NOT have a child all by yourself) WAKE UP MY SISTERS, you and I (us black men) have been played a fool by the powers that be. It’s simply called divide and conquer. Just go to google and search divide and couquer and realize what role you are playing. TO sum all this up. Allot of my black woman don’t see what really is going on, that’s why we don’t see oursleves with you. It’s called maturity, and I’m not saying it all your fault but seek knowledge and it will be givin to you. Signed,
Society, now YOU! Damn.

02.1.07 at 5:40 pm

Slim Goodtime says:
I could not have said it better myself females seem to be so far from reality, almost living in a fantasy. I tend to use the sponge comparison women want to take, take, take and when you expect them to give it is almost like a foreign language. They want love on a two way street but the traffic is blocked in the other direction.

02.7.07 at 2:07 am

9ja says:
Somehow I don’t feel bad for black women at all. Money is always in the back of their mind, if not the front. They have a notion of prince charmin coming to sweep them off their feet, but they consciously know this is a fantasy but still seek it. Almost all black women think of the short run, never the long run. “They never want to hear its gonna get better”. For example, when a black man looses his job today, watch how the same woman who catered to him yesterday, think his life is over.(happens too often).Shes already thinkin of a back up plan(this is true for all women). When black men are going thru life problems, its life, ups & downs, toughest times; instead of increasing their support, black women find it as the right time to kick us while down, make them self feel good and so on. But what they don’t realise is when things do get better, another women will enjoy the success, often women from other race. Look at the scenerio from “pursuit of happiness”. Thats why black men love (most)white women because they understand that life ain’t always sweet. Their skin is tough enough to struggle with u. The love of money and material things to boast to there friend fill black women’s unrealistic minds. At first sight, black women don’t care for what u are about but money u spending. Its so funny how black women will often go for a guy who borrowed his friend S500 benz for the night, than a guy with his own toyota. So what does that tell u. Things ain’t gonna change. Call it what u want, but I have a beautiful black woman at home and weve been through the good and bad TOGETHER.

02.8.07 at 6:14 am

J-Real says:
i’m so disheartened to see some of the comments i’ve seen on this posting. its just a trip. i guess its because i start looking at myself first. i’m 24. i drive a beat up car. i work a wack job with a terrible schedule. but i wake up everyday happy. because i have a son, that i drive my beat up car to see everyday. and drive to my wack job AT NIGHT and work to help support my son and his mother (a black woman) with their needs. and i live this article daily. the unappreciated black male. not the jail bird. not the down low brotha. not the woman beater. not even the playa (anymore). i grew into manhood. stood tall. but still torn down by the thoughts that my own black sisters have for me. my childs mother wants to be married. complains all the time. but then starts a fight over soething not being cleaned or something else frivilous. i read those earlier posts and did not see one woman agree with even a hint of what was said. automatic defense mode. and therein lies another part of the problem. its called communication. if you wanna talk, lets talk. if you wanna know what we think, here it is. now the writer of this article hs the task of informing as well as entertaining. i don’t. so i can let you know. if we can’t say to you, as he did in the article, i don’t like to argue and fight, or i’d like you to find some new, less trifling friends, without the masses of ladies jumpin us like a gang initiation as you saw, then hell, there’s no reason in saying it. you just keep looking. and i do date black women exclusively. that will not change. i love ya’ll. ya’ll been thru so much throughout time, but we have too. so where is that love when my head is down. cause trust, i’m gone damn sure be there for you when your head falls. believe that.

02.8.07 at 11:21 am

Real talk says:
“My sisters, doesn’t this make you all want to get your shit together?…As someone who deals with black women exclusively, and remains fiercely devoted, I feel I’m qualified enough to say that y’all better straighten the hell up. While the idea that 70 percent of women out there don’t have a ring on their finger is indeed tantalizing to me, it’s also representative of a much larger issue that has gone on way too long…” Huey you are a jackass and it’s sad there are some brothers (& some sisters) believing the shit you spew. Most of your posts are one sided reckless chauvinistic tangents with no merit.

02.8.07 at 11:21 pm

pynelopi says:
YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME MANNNNN!!! What kind of abuse or control tool are you trying to get across with this one? Let me make one simple point…..The women who CHOOSE NOT to marry are indeed….the smart ones. There is nothing wrong with me and for sure there have been MANY wanting to marry me but for whatever reasons….they were not someone that I wanted to be bothered with every single day…..Hell, I don’t even want to be bothered with MYSELF everyday…..geeeez mannn. Take note…..Marriage is a business merger. It has all the components of a corporation. It has products (children), contracts (marriage licenses), and so many other aspects that comprise a business. If you don’t understand this simple fact…..wait until the divorce…you will…lol. I am extremely proud of myself for NOT choosing marriage (at least not yet). Most of my friends who are married are miserable and hate to go to their own homes at night (both women and men). There are probably some very good things about being married but the statistics and general census says……Marriage Sucks! I can do bad all by myself…lol. Ladies, take note and before you get yourself caught up in some kind of Maury Povich nightmare……think….whilst your legs are in the air…..you’ll be a lot happier!!!!
Cheers!
Pynelopi

02.12.07 at 7:26 am

Ibrahim says:
First off to the young lady that compared marriage to business merger, that would explain why you should NOT be married. Business merges are souless and based on the bottom line benefit, marriage has never been that. As a matter of fact, that comparison you made actually says you really are not ready for marriage at all. Marriage on the surfact is the union of individuals looking to cohabitate, share expenses and produce offspring. But on the very things that keep the marriage going is love, the spiritual connection and God blessed bond you share. Most people marry for the wrong reasons. Some people marry without having the maturity to be with themselves. But that’s another subject. I hear the ladies out there, very upset at this article but maybe they should listen. Essences, Ebony or Jet cannot tell you how to keep a man, a man can only tell you that. Do I have to be sensitive in order not to be yelled out and disrespected? Take a look at this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1HVcFyF-mco I think this illustrates a great point. But we as men know we have created this monster that most of us don’t want to deal with. We’ve created the woman that feels she needs to be man and woman at the same time. We’ve created the mistrusting, snooping and overbearing women that are running around today. And on the real, only we can put an end to it. And before somebody goes off and says I called black women monsters, I was referring to the situation that we put, not just black woman, but all women in. That’s my two cents.

02.14.07 at 10:52 pm

9ja says:
To pynelopi, I feel bad for u because by the time u know it, the beauty u so cherish now will be full of wrinkles, ur so called cherished hair will be gray and what is left will be no match for the young tantalizing gals coming up. hates to say this but u might be one of the women with no husband or companion takin ur agression on others. U might feel u don’t need marriage, just wait and see. Lol at ur comment.

02.15.07 at 5:56 pm

da dog says:
society has made men the way they are. men dont get rewarded for treating a lady like a queen its like the more you give a woman is the less she gives. Most women especially young women dont take intrest into young honest hard working men just trying to make it they want that ghetto fab dude thats just gonna tell em what they need to hear thats what most women like. so…thats the game and if a brother doesnt play he gets no play. yeah i used to be caring, nice, and honest maybe thats the reason why girls never used to show luv the way they do now.
haha..Huey how they want good men and when they dont even know what they look like and even if they get them they dont appreciate and keep them. to all my ladys with beautiful personalities and know what a good man look like please dont take offense
but for the rest the black ladies out there “please” STEP YA GAME UP

02.15.07 at 10:15 pm

Da Dog says:
society has made men the way they are. men dont get rewarded for treating a lady like a queen its like the more you give a woman is the less she gives. Most women especially young women dont take intrest into young honest hard working men just trying to make it they want that ghetto fab dude thats just gonna tell em what they need to hear thats what most women like. so…thats the game and if a brother doesnt play he gets no play. yeah i used to be caring, nice, and honest maybe thats the reason why girls never used to show luv the way they do now.
to all my ladys that “REALLY” know what they want and are looking or got that man…..dont take offense
as for the rest of the beautiful black ladies out there “get real” and STEP YA GAME UP

02.18.07 at 6:40 pm

Imoh says:
I have read enough of Huey’s articles to not take offense. Take his commentary with a grain of salt. But he raises an interesting point. The percentage of married black women AND MEN are roughly the same at 30%. This goes alot deeper than just numbers, it speaks to a history of slavery and profound institutional, systemic racism. Look most black women I meet are cool, hard working, loving, and dedicated women. Not materialistic at all. Not gold diggers. But let’s not base our opinions on what some rapper says. They date gold diggers and wonder why she wants money? Or dates strippers and calls her ho? Most black women in relationships that I’ve seen are very accomodating and submissive. We have problems on both sides, but casting blame on either side is counter product and counter intuitive. Let’s be real and admit our relationship shortcomings so we can truly get understanding into the complex world of black male / female relationships. Personally, I love black men. I feel for the pressure that society has placed on you. I feel your pain and I truly believe that most black women know the deal. But when you hear sistas criticizing it is most definitely out of anger. But I agree with a previous poster, it is that game of divide and conquer. Let’s have a real dialogue that promotes understanding instead of the same lame cliches and stereotypes. Let’s quit looking to the media, television, and movie images to tell us who we are. Personally I for one want a relationship with a good black man. I want to be able to give my self fully and in the past have put on a hard exterior to avoid getting hurt. Black people with all the forces trying to destroy we must take care of ourselves.

05.23.07 at 11:20 am

The 5th Letter [E] says:
All I need to say is 1 thing in response to this article… WORD!!!

05.30.07 at 8:19 pm

Majestic Man says:
Although I don’t agree with everything in the article, I do agree with a lot of it. I also believe that it could have been written in a way so that it doesn’t seem to attack black women and blame them solely for everything. It’s just sad though that the women who commented had to get so defensive over this. Just because you don’t agree with it doesn’t mean that there isn’t any truth to it or that brothers don’t actually feel the way the author has described. When you dismiss everything the article is saying, then that’s the start of the communication problem right there. You have effectively dismissed the feelings of a lot of brothers and for you to do so tells black men that you don’t really care what we want or believe. What we (everyone, both men and women) should be more focused on, is figuring out solutions to the issue instead of seeking to place blame. Placing blame is never good for any reason, especially when it comes to issues of communication, which clearly the black man and black women have severe problems with. So now it’s someone’s fault, now what? I think that it’s best to listen, take into consideration what people are saying and realize that there is no right or wrong to peoples feelings and beliefs. What a person feels is simply what they feel. No need to put them down for their beliefs. I think that both the article and the comments have their points but it is counterproductive to attempt to debate who’s point of view is right or wrong. There are a lot of issues black men and women need to address within themselves first before they can even hope to provide any kind of companionship to another human being (man, woman or child). If your not right with yourself, don’t know who you are, what you want or if you don’t know your true place on this earth….Then how can you ever expect another human being to be able to give you what you “NEED” out of any relationship? I think that’s where most of us go wrong. We don’t know ourselves yet we seek others to fulfill what we think we need from them. Problem with that is no one can give you the things you seek and once we each realize that, that will be the day when black men and women can then come together, respect one another and have committed and productive relationships that lead to marriage and building a family.

05.30.07 at 8:28 pm

Majestic Man says:
By the way Ibrahim, that video was on point for sure. I mean some women are just so bitter and angry, they simply assume things that more often than not is not true. I tell ya, assumptions will get you in trouble every time. don’t assume anything, get the facts straight!

09.2.07 at 5:50 pm

Zaza says:
First, as for the percentage of different raced women that are married… that just shows that black women don’t just settle for any ole Dick & Tom! Also, for us black women that perfer black men, the black men are dying, which drops the percentile of married black women cause now they’re widows. Also, the black man is in prison or don’t want black women. Second, when will it get through societies head that not everybody want to be married?!! That shit is stressful, who needs it, really?!
Third, the percentages are so invalid w/o facts. In a previous NY Post newspaper article it showed that Asian women and Hispanic women are marrying at very early ages (i.e. 17 and 18 years old). That’s the age when most black women are taking their beautiful asses to college and getting an education. Huey, you ask, doesn’t that (the percentages) make us black women want to get our shit together? Let’s do the percentile of black in prison and see who in the African-American race need to get their shit “together”… P.S. why in the fuck does everything or everyone make it seem like ALL black women have this issue (the article above) or another issue (refering to ignorant ass Polow). Stop the madness!! That’s like saying ALL white people are racist or ALL black men only do well in sports.

11.2.07 at 12:23 am

kimberly johnson says:
i am 32 black female single and have been most of my adult life.I am from panhandle in west texas. i have always treated men as i want to be treate, very honest, and christian. I feel you wrote this out of angry because you have been hurt. I have no of those issues you wrote about and many of the women i know do not have these issues. How about that black women are not valued by black man and sometime a threat.AT LEAST IN MY AREA OF THE COUNTRY. I have research it some on my own,Black mother have been know to encourage their son to date white women and not let nappy head hoes bring them down.
THAT FLOORED ME… WE LIVE THE PART OF THE COUNTRY THAT STILL HAVE KKK RALLIES 200 AWAY…
BUT BLACK WOMEN ARE THE ENEMY

01.10.08 at 11:26 pm

A. says:
Nope. We don’t want someone who is bringing in an assload of money. We want men who show some RESPONSIBILITY AND SELF-DISCIPLINE. We want men who are rich with respect, morals and some God Fearing Values. We want men who will hold open doors for us, treat us like queens, and treat us well. I attribute the 70% issue to the fact that a lot of black men are not INTERESTED in black women. A lot of them are more wanting to marry white because Miss White is going to stroke their ego. Grow Some Balls. Step up YOUR GAME.

01.11.08 at 10:34 pm

Lala says:
The brotha who wrote this article is very truthful. It’s sad that many, well basically almost all sistas don’t like to hear what a brotha has to say. This is how many black men feel like, and sistas are so defensive, and it’s hard to communicate with them, because they’re stuck in fantasy land. Sistas like brothas who tell them what they want to hear, it’s a game to get a sista. The thugs, pimps, & hustlers are getting these sistas. You can tell by the single baby mama rate. Down here in georgia, it’s not uncommon to see girls as young as 16 with babies. Like black women keep saying how the dating pool is so small for them to get good black men, but they don’t really want good black men nor appreciate them. Brothas who did 4 years in prison, are getting more black women then brothas who did 4 years in college. Sistas are like the most difficult people to talk to, because they’re so defensive and love to blame others. Heres a point that most us black men need to consider about our so called “queens”..black women are the only group of women in the world, that put there men down. They will go toe to toe with a brotha, size him up & challenge him, but they will quickly submit to the white man though. Who causes black men the most drama. White men, and black women. Typically everybody else tend to mind there own business, but white men & black women have a tendency to make a brothas life a living hell. Sistas attitudes are even worser. They have attitudes with everybody except white men. Who do they run to when they feel brothas aint @!*^, the white man. Then you have sistas trying to look like white women. With the bleached skin, colored contacts, blond hair, weaves, etc. It’s like you can’t hate on a brotha who dates white women, when you try to look like them. Sistas even followed the white womans lead during the feminist movement. Thats why sistas act like how they act today. They don’t like being black. They don’t like there features, hair, nothing. There racist towards blacks. “brothas aint $^*t”. Then after all these reasons I explained, they wonder why 70% of them are single.

01.12.08 at 1:11 pm

lala says:
With black women, it’s always I want this in a man, I want that, it’s all about me, me, me. What can I benefit from the relationship. Those are the type of attitudes sistas display. They go after these thugs, pimps, and hustlers, have there babies with them, the thugs are out messing with other women, the sista with the babies run to the good brothas, to cry on his shoulder, the good brothas gives advice to the sista, and back to that thug d%ck she goes to. It’s like black women in general don’t know what a real man is suppose to be. There imagination is flawed. What has black women done for the black race, besides crossed sides to the white women, and joined there feminist movement, submit to white men, treat brothas like they aint s#@t, and tries there best to look like white women. The only thing black women are doing for the black race, is raising boys to be jailbirds, and raising daughters to be independent and hate black men. Sistas love to boast there own self esteem when they see all these brothas flocking to white women. They lie to themselves and say, well they can’t handle strong black women, they love white features, it’s not that. It’s because of those d@#m attitudes. Sistas confuse throwing baby tandrums as being strong. I don’t get that. Obviously men don’t like strong women, and the stastic’s prove me right. 70% of black women are single. Men lie, women lie, but numbers dont. Sterotypes about black women wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t true. I think sistas love to blame others, love to deny, sistas never want to woman up, and except responsiblity for there actions. Like they keep yelling brothas are sorry, but in there arms is little junior, the baby that came from these sorry brothas. Sistas are difficult, they don’t want to hear what a brotha has to say. They want to hear the lies of “oh black women are queens” “black women are so strong” even queens, submit to the king. So black women can’t be queens. Alot of people are starting to catch on to these trifling black women, and are now dating anything but black. It’s mainly the american black women whom I’m refering too. Jamican, african, & ethiopoin black women know how to treat a man. But sistas you need to stop blaming everybody else, and look at yourselves, and think of ways of how you can change yourselves, instead of making up excuses for yourselves, and being ignorant

03.31.08 at 10:17 pm

pooh bear says:
I don’t get this whole thing as a black woman. What’s up with the me this and me that. Black men blaming black women and vice verse. Cummings has a right to his opinion. I’m not sure if it’s a joke or not but the men I’m interested in, are the ones who treat me with dignity, respect, gives solid support, is a good man to himself/others and loves me in the best caring way he can because that’s the way I will treat him if I cared for him. If he’s too busy looking at what I can do for him without anything given then we need to stop wasting each other time so that we can find someone better. I’d be disrespecting myself and him because it would be sending the message that we both don’t deserve happiness, have to settle and telling him that his less is his best. Why can’t we just concentrate on being a good person and only waste our time with men/women who are better suited for us. One woman mentioned that she spent 5 odd years on a guy who did not pay his bills. I’m thinking that she did most of the paying. I don’t know what his situation was and it does not make him less of a person but why sister girl - WTF SISTER WHY?!?(You have the nerve to bitch about it when you know you should have walked away.It’s like dropping a boulder on your foot and getting bitter at the object when you’re hurt when you know damn well you should not have picked it up and dropped it in the first place.) Don’t get me wrong, I’d date a good man who has a low income but if he’s looking at my wallet, bitching about it and asking me for money like a five year old then he needs to go find a sugar mommy. It’s all good just not my thing? Also black women stop blaming black guys, move on and widen your options. Date black men and men of other races. I love my black men but it’s nice to put things in perspective - It’s not about us/them. It’s about owning your space and deciding on what’s right for you as an individual. Who cares what others think and who gives a shit how many black women are unmarried. Live your life and be happy.

04.15.08 at 4:30 pm

Darryl says:
Lets not also forget the fact that black women are the most overweight and obese group in America by far. Yes too much junk in the trunk stomach hips thighs neck back and arms. The average black female is a size 20 dress size dude that is huge. Beyonce is about half that size and still shapely. Loose some weight.

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